“So This Is Marriage?” (The Challenges That Married Couples Face)


Before marriage, we all thought that once the knots are tied, this life go sweet die. Only you with your man/woman, enjoying, partying, shopping, doing somersaults anyhow, this, that, yen yen yen�… Akụkọ�

Most of us didn’t consider the pressures that would come from home keeping, financial pressure on the family, stress from inlaws, friends, coping with the demands of our jobs while securing the home front, etc.

We didn’t even think that a time would come when little discussions could result to very big quarrels, and you could actually keep malice with your partner, and say to hell with him/her.

We thought having sex everyday would just be fun since we’ve gotten the licence to be weird, we never imagined that we would one day be forming tayad in the oza room�.

We thought everything would just go as planned and we will live happily ever after, never did we imagine the frustrations, the heartbreaks, the regrets, the hurtful words and actions that would one day come from our heartthrob intentionally or otherwise.

Most of us thought love texting is fun and would never cease, but here we are, sending list of things to buy, issues to be resolved, school fees, utility bills, etc ��most times even forgetting to add love you at the end of the messages.

hat about pillow talks, �. We enjoyed lots of it during courtship, discussing the future, totoring each other, giglling throughout the night, and all… We thought marriage would bring out the PhD of that aspect… ��. Little did we know that sometimes we would sleep off on the couch even without having our night bath. Pillow talks haff advanced to kitchen/on-the-way-out talk�

As you’re coming out from one challenge, you’re faced with another. It’s like a loop, we keep going round and never getting to the end.

These things are overwhelming to a lot of people, you see wonderful sweet women becoming something else, the men most times start looking for outdoor activities, some, see themselves as stuck with each other and just continue to manage and hope for a better tomorrow, while the impatient ones seek ways and excuses to return to spinsterhood/bachelorhood.

It takes a lot to make this thing called marriage work. If you’ve not been there you won’t understand any of those☝️.

So the next time you see couples celebrating their marriage anniversary, rejoice with them, cos what they celebrate is beyond the beautiful appearances they put up and the fine pictures you see on social media.

Every marriage anniversary is worth celebrating, don’t wait until you’re 25years in marriage.

Kudos to all men and women who despite the many challenges are still keeping up with the love they saw and believed in, may God continue to strengthen your home and give you double success for every effort you make, Amen�����

If u can’t forgive, please don’t marry. Marriage is a Ministry of ‘Offence’. So u must be a permanent secretary in Forgiveness Department,

with a Phd in Understanding,

M.Sc in Loving and a B.Sc in Tolerance.

God Almighty is my defender and protector. I am not afraid of the thousands of enemies     who surround me on every side. Come, Lord! Save me, my God! You punish all my enemies   and leave them powerless to harm me. Prayer is the master key.


  1. There are many common problems in married life and a lot of them can be avoided, fixed, or resolved using many different methods and techniques.

    Take a look at the most common marital problems faced by married couples, and learn how to tackle these marriage problems before they cause irreparable damage in your relationship.

    1.Infidelity: Is one of the most common marriage problems in relationships. It includes cheating and having emotional affairs.

    2. Sexual differences: In other instances, sexual problems can be due to the sexual preferences of a spouse. One person in the relationship may prefer different sexual things than the other spouse which can make the other spouse uncomfortable.

    3. Values and beliefs: Certainly, there will be differences and disagreements within a marriage, but some differences are too major to ignore, such as core values and beliefs. One spouse may have one religion and the other may have a different belief.
    This may give rise to an emotional chasm among other common marriage problems.

  2. In other instances, sexual problems can be due to the sexual preferences of a spouse. One person in the relationship may prefer different sexual things than the other spouse which can make the other spouse uncomfortable.

  3. Marriage is an institution, a Devine institution and must be approached from a Devine perspective for it to work. The major ingredients are love and understanding, I mean God’s kind of love, and that is Unconditional love. If these vital factors are present every other thing will find expression in the marriage.